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Well Reader, it’s that time of year again.

The calendar flips, planners come out, and suddenly everything is about fresh starts. New goals. New routines. New promises about how this year will be different. In sports, in work, in life, it shows up the same way every time. Bigger goals, tighter timelines, more urgency.

We are really good at jumping straight into resolutions.

What we are not very good at is slowing down first.

Most people rush ahead without ever getting curious about the year they just lived. What actually worked. What quietly improved. What drained more energy than it gave back. What lessons kept showing up, even when we tried to ignore them.

That rush forward feels productive, but it skips something important.

Reflection.

I was thinking recently about the idea of confabulation. In simple terms, it is what our brains do when there are gaps in memory. We do not intentionally lie to ourselves. Instead, our minds fill in missing pieces with a story that feels right. It helps us make sense of things, even when the details are fuzzy or incomplete.

The tricky part is that those stories feel true. Very true.

When we look back on a season or a year without slowing down, we often do the same thing. We remember how it felt more than what happened. We remember the ending more than the process. We remember the frustration louder than the growth, or the success without noticing the cracks underneath it.

…and it got me thinking.

Reflection is not about judgment. It is about data.

Reflection is not putting the year on trial. It is reviewing the tape. Wins are not trophies in this moment, they are clues. Losses are not indictments, they are information. Both matter if we actually look at them honestly.

Judgment asks, “Was this good or bad?”
Curiosity asks, “What happened, and what can I learn from it?”

That difference matters more than we realize.

In youth sports especially, everything feels emotional and final. A season ends and we rush to label it. Successful. Disappointing. A waste. A breakthrough. Those labels feel clean, but they rarely tell the whole story. They also tend to shape the goals we set next, often without us realizing it.

When reflection gets skipped, goals become guesses. We end up fixing symptoms instead of patterns. We repeat the same frustrations with new language and more pressure attached. We carry unfinished emotions forward and call it motivation.

Curiosity changes that.

Curiosity slows things down just enough to notice patterns. It asks what kept showing up, not just what stood out. It notices what worked more often than we gave credit for. It notices what looked successful but felt heavy. It gives context to both confidence and doubt.

That kind of reflection does not demand answers right away. It does not require a big plan or a perfect takeaway. Sometimes clarity itself is the win.

Before setting goals for the new year, it might be worth doing better homework on the year you just lived. Not to relive it, not to judge it, but to understand it.

If there is one thing worth resisting right now, it is the urge to wrap the year up neatly.

Not everything needs to be labeled. Not everything needs a takeaway. Some things just need to be noticed before they quietly follow us into the next season.

Reflection is not about fixing the past. It is about seeing it clearly enough to understand what it gave us, and what it took from us.

Clarity comes before direction.

And that feels like the right place to pause, for now.

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